Building One Another Up

Something happened in my neighborhood coffee shop a couple of years back. Two friends turned up at each other’s doorstep every Tuesday morning, notebooks in hand, not to just catch up, but to intentionally invest in each other. It was their “Growth Tuesday,” they said. It occurred to me then how friendship is when we decide to be part of the adventure.

Friendship, after all, is not about finding somebody to do something with(although that is a great thing too). You want to have someone around you who knows you have what it takes, even if you don’t think you do. It’s that nudge when you’re feeling ready to quit, that push when you break through.

Now let’s see how it plays out on the ground. Because, my friend, this is not just theory – here is where the stakes are in our walk with faith our own development.

The Power of Intentional Friendship

First thing’s first: you don’t grow overnight. We, like those coffee shop acquaintances, have to be mindful. And that can look like this:

Monthly Updates: Make sure you have a specific time to speak with each about your spiritual and life plans. It can be weekly, it could be monthly, just stick to it.

Prayer Network: Tell one another about what is going well and what is hindering you and pray for your area of expansion.

Scripture or Life Discussion Commitment: If it is scripture or more casual lifestyle learning discussions (kids, pets, sports, current events…whatever)  talk about what you are learning. Those “aha” moments are best with the ones you share!

Set Aim Together: Create BIG SMART dreams, and turn the BIG into SUCCESSFUL steps. When someone goes, “Oh, how’s that going? can be incredibly motivating.

But Here’s the Real Talk…

It’s not always comfortable. Growth rarely is. Be a good friend, too, on the occasion of having to ask: “Well how is your prayer life?”, “How are you feeling about  (insert the event)?” or “Remember that thing you did? What’s holding you back?”

I remember Sarah my friend yelled at me for not getting into fights in my relationships. It hurt a little (ok, a lot) but she was so kind to be that she made me grow more than I could have on my own.

Practical Steps for Growth-Focused Friendships

Make Room: Build a foundation of trust by being trustworthy and confidential.
Talk When You Have Something to Say: Sometimes people simply have something to say out loud.
Praise Small Successes: What was their accomplishment   this week? That’s worth celebrating!
Be First Afraid: Open the door to others and be vulnerable first.
Follow Up: Don’t let the conversation die in the trash can. Circle back to previous discussions.

Faith  Foundation

As iron works on iron, so one man works on another. And this isn’t just a pretty image – it’s the recipe for good friends. That grinding isn’t always pleasant but it’s the path of progress.

Your Turn to Grow

I invite you to do one thing today to be a growing friend. Or perhaps texting that phone number to solidify a regular coffee catch up. Maybe that’s having that conversation you’ve been waiting for. Regardless of what, always remember: some of the greatest growth takes place in the context of close friendship.

Because in the end we’re not going to go it alone. We’re meant to rally hands, lift each other up, cheer each other on and encourage one another to have faith and not give up.

And isn’t that what friendship is?

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